Growing up in a culture that praises independence, asking for help may feel like the ultimate defeat. You should be able to handle everything by yourself, right? WRONG! We’re here to remind you that asking for help is NOT a bad thing. Here are some reasons to ask for help and how to do so.
Why Ask for Help?
You’re only one person
You don’t have to tackle the world all by yourself! It’s okay to ask for help when you need it. In fact, we ENCOURAGE it. Sometimes, having things under our complete control can feel empowering. However, being human means that you have limitations, and trying to do everything all by yourself is going to leave you completely drained.
People love to help
Another thing about being human? It’s in our nature to help each other; we LITERALLY love it. Many of the world’s greatest thinkers have agreed that humans gain a certain sense of happiness and fulfillment when helping others. And there is even science to back it up. So, don’t be afraid to ask for help! You aren’t burdening anyone; in fact you are giving people a chance to take pleasure in their altruism.
It’s a chance to grow
Not only will you receive the assistance you need, but you will also be learning from the experience! Whether you’re receiving tutoring for your Calculus class or going to counseling, you are doing something that will improve your life and overall well being.
How Do You Ask for Help?
Identify what you need
Be specific, and make a list if you think that will organize your thoughts. When you can clearly articulate the assistance you need, your professor, counselor, classmate, or friend will have a better idea of how to guide you. You are helping them help you! (How many times can we say “help” in this blog post?)
Find the right person to ask
This is an important step in asking for help. Especially if you are looking for advice or guidance, you want to make sure you are going to the right person equipped with the information you need. If you’re looking for extra academic help, approach your professors or TAs. If you’re in need of mental health resources, reach out to your health center on campus. If you’re too ill to go to the store for medicine, request a favor from a friend or roommate.
Shut down Imposter Syndrome
Imposter Syndrome is when an individual has feelings of being a “fraud,” and doubts their own accomplishments. These emotions may be preventing you from asking for help because you feel like you need to “prove” yourself. Or maybe you’re under the false assumption that you’re the ONLY one that needs help. Don’t believe these lies! For more information, check out our article all about overcoming Imposter Syndrome.